13 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

13 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

Dear Friends,

Many say 13 is the most unlucky number, but I would like to introduce you to the no. 13 once again.

Before I quote let me tell all my readers that 13^th was the day I was born. But believe me when I say I’m lucky like a “philosophers stone”.

To start with let me understand about you’ll, let us start the interaction.

Have you been hurt in the past?

Has someone cheated, lied, or betrayed you?

Do you want to know how to trust again?

The truth is everything starts from within.

If you don't love yourself, how can you love others?

If you don't accept yourself, how can you accept others?

If you don't forgive yourself, how can you forgive others?

If you don't trust yourself, how can you trust others?

It takes time to build trust in a relationship. The question is “How”?

Here is how.

1. Trust Yourself

Trust that you are good enough. Trust that you are worthy of love and capable of loving. Trust that you are in the right place, at the right time, and meet the right people. All of the experiences in the past are your great teachers. Each lesson in life is teach you to become the person you are today. Trust that you deserve to live to the fullest. Trust that you can be, do, and have anything you want. Give yourself that gift of trust. And see what else is there for you to explore.

Just by doing this you will definitely open the doors of “Happiness”

2. Trust Life

Trust that everything happens for a reason. Life is about loving, living, learning, growing, and becoming who you are here to be—the best you can be. No matter how many challenges you are facing, trust yourself that you can overcome it. Lessons come to you because you need them. Trust in your own abilities to face challenge and solve problems that come. You have that power to create the world you want. When you don't trust life, you live in fears, doubts, and worries. As a result, you limit yourself to receive trust that come your way.

When you trust life, you know that you can survive in any difficult situation. Suffering does not last. Some relationships don't last either. Material things don't last. Your job you have today might not last. What would last forever?

Trust in life and trust in yourself that will lead you; whatever comes your way, you are able to face it with love, strength, and courage.

3. Trust Others

Often people don't trust others because they have been hurt before. They close their hearts tightly. They hold on to the past events that happened in their lives. They live in fears. When you meet new people, or new opportunities, they remind themselves that they have been hurt in the past and convince themselves that they will get hurt again.

Guess what! If you believe that you will get hurt again, you will. You are the one who attract the energy. You are the one who causes it by projecting your own future. You still live in the past and you make your past become your reality. Give yourself a chance to first trust yourself. Then, be open to trust others. Just because you had a broken heart in the past, it does not mean that you would experience it again. Even if you experience it again, there is always a person who will actually trust you more than himself, who will actually try to design a better and happy life for you always.

4. Accept Yourself

If you make a mistake in the past, stop beating yourself up. Accept that you made a mistake/ mistakes. We all do them. Cheer up! Hug yourself, love yourself, and nurture yourself. Accept that you can't change the past. Accept that you can't change others. It is hard enough to change yourself, so why bothers thinking about changing others. You can't go back to fix it.

Ask yourself “What can I learn from this experience? And What can I do now in order to move forward?” You are a gorgeous and powerful being. Don't allow the negativity thoughts or emotions to control you. You can be liberated from it by accepting yourself completely and love yourself unconditionally. Accept yourself NOW.


5. Be Open & Embrace Life

When you are open to the new, you are more open to trust that life has so much to give you. Life is full of wonder. Explore something new that you have never experienced before. Go out in the word and make new friends. When new people or opportunities come, be open to embrace them. By being open and embracing life you will receive more. It is because we live in an abundance of love. Love comes to you from different directions. You just need to be open your heart and embrace life.

 I understand that not all can express themselves directly, some fall short in expressing it. Understand, embrace and accept the fact that not everyone has all the talents. But every person do manage to show an unconditional love with that one person who he trust the most.

6. Be Patient

Even I have learnt this the hard way, it is easy to preach but difficult to enact, I can’t I  much onto this as I’m still practicing it. I know it takes time to trust someone. Be patient with yourself. Work on trusting yourself first. Then, trusting others will fall into line.

7. Be Present

No regret from the past. No worries about the future. Be here now. If you have a trust issue from your past relationship, leave it in the past. Everyday is your new day and new beginning. Be here now with the relationship you have. Life is to live in the NOW. Breathe...Feel your heart beat. Treasure this precious moment NOW.

8. Be Aware of Your Surrounding

Surround yourself with positive people. Spend time with those people who truly love you, support you, and want the best for you. They trust in you and your ability to be, to do, and to have anything in life. Avoid those who don't trust in your ability, who look down on you, who are jealous, who are negative, etc.


9. Be Trustworthy

Live with integrity. Do what you say that you are going to do. Keep being consistent. If you say that you would meet him/ her at 6:30pm., then meet him at 6:30pm. If you promise to show up at a birthday party, then show up at the certain time. There comes a time, when you might not be able to keep your words. Then, that leads you to the next step. Communicate: communicating the same beforehand actually help you to uphold your integrity. Do not let someone wait or break.

10. Forgive

Forgiveness is a medicine for Soul. It is a healing. If someone broke your trust in the past, it is very important for you to forgive that person. Why? If you still hold on to your past hurt, guess who is hurting? It is you. If you are angry at someone and holding on to that anger, who is hurting? It is you. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself. If someone betrayed, lied, and and cheated on you, forgive yourself for holding on to negative feelings toward those who hurt you. In order for you to move forward, you need to forgive yourself and others for everything that happened to you in the past. You will be liberated by all the negativity, and be ready to take the next step. That is to trust again.



11. Ask Yourself “What would love do?”

When you ask yourself that question, you are connecting with truth. With the heart, you are linked up with your higher self which is the pure being; LOVE. With love, you will find truth. When you do things with your whole heart, your whole being, you do the right thing. The right thing is to trust yourself again and again...And again...

12. Be Grateful

Be grateful for each experience you have. Get the most out of it. We learn fast when we face with challenge, disappointment, broken hearts, and hurt. Let your experiences be your best teachers. Without them, you would not have become who you are today. You become wiser and stronger. Most importantly, you become to trust yourself and trust life more. The more grateful you are, the more trust you have in your heart. The more you trust your heart, the more you trust others.

Never forget to express gratitude to the person who has helped you. The same goes with expressing yourself of being wrong.

13. Love Yourself


There is a saying that goes like this: “You can't give away what you don't have.”


If you don't trust yourself, how can you trust others?

Sometimes right person may seem to be wrong one as you fail to trust & love yourself and him, Understand, collaborate and be truthful to the person who is trying to support you. Be open to the opportunities.

Be firm and express yourself, if u do not like anything just communicate it don’t hide it as this will lead into frustration.

I would like to close this write-up with just one go “love the one who loves you, and your life will be the most beautiful place on this earth.” In order to do so, all you got to do is to follow these 13 principles I have adopted.

@sambhram Nayak

answered questions

Sometimes it's damn difficult to express one self; specially when we are in love.

They say girls are the most complicated things; but i believe its next to love.

there are some questions which is running in my brain, hope some one could enlighten me on this:

1. when we say "I love you" to the girl we love, who is also a friend; why does she always think that we are joking?

2. Why does it hurts me when I or anyone blames her or talks anything wrong about her?

3. How the hell should I convince her that m in love?

4. why the hell do i get angry when someone misbehave or talks something really stupid about her or her character?

5. How the hell should i know since why i love her?

6. why can't the girl never understands how much a guy loves her?

7. why the hell do i feel like being wit her or talking to her or just watch her pics at least ?

8. How m I supposed to get out of this addiction?

9. what the hell m i supposed to do?

10. Why the hell m i writing this? 

"U can Survive anything if u have survived the heart break."

All good things must come to an end. In some cases, that end is long and drawn out. In other instances, it hits you out of nowhere. And sometimes, it's a confusing mix of both that leaves you with the impression that you just didn't try hard enough to keep it going.

I sit in the apartment, with Laptop and a glass of whiskey with ice in it, contemplating the highs and lows of life along the journey been through. Memories of nicknames, cuddling and memories lend tears to my eyes. Other recollections, less pleasant and more repressed, fill me with an intense sense of relief.

Love comes and goes unexpectedly. People get together in a flurry of circumstance: they help each other through hard times, teach each other important lessons and then fade from one another’s heart and mind. This decay can take months, years... The truly lucky get to experience love for a lifetime, the ride coming to an end only when the physical heart dies in tandem with the emotional one.

The trouble with love is that this fading is never coordinated, leaving us in uneven levels of disrepair.

A heart break can help you face almost anything; maybe because there is nothing more in life to loose than self confidence and belief.

My head is cloudy with that sadness headache one gets after shedding too many tears. My body feels uncomfortable from too much alcohol, as I know going to bed will be the worst part. Still, I am slightly exhilarated with the freedom and new beginnings that await me. Or is that fear?

My mind and soul contradict with their statements, Unable to decide what to pen down next. But the bottom line is:
Time is the greatest magician; who can heal almost everything
.I’ve lived through worse. I’ll be ok.

No, I’ll be even better.

A tribute to the brave Indian Air force / first encounter with F-86

Air Commodore Manbir Singh VrC flew with No.28 Squadron during the 1971 War as a Flt Lt. During the course of the Bangladesh Operations, he flew 27 sorties in Air Defence, Counter Air and Close Support roles including night time bombing missions. In this article he recollects his very first combat sortie involving combat with a Pakistani F-86 Sabre Jet.

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Flt Lt Manbir Singh, seen here at the Dacca airport after the ceasefire.

On the 3rd of December 1971 we at 28 Squadron Air Force at Tezpur got orders to move to Gauhati. All serviceable Mig-21 aircraft on squadron strength were flown by night to Gauhati, from where the squadron was to take part in the 1971 Indo-Pak war in the eastern sector.

On 4th December 1971 I was detailed to escort a strike mission of four aircraft equipped with 57mm rockets led by the Squadron Commander Wg Cdr B K  Bishnoi (Bhoop).  My number two for the mission was Flt Lt David Subaiya (Dadoo). Our aircraft were equipped with two K-13 infra-red homing missiles, one under each wing and a single long range fuel drop tank under the belly of the aircraft. The strike mission’s task was to attack enemy aircraft and installations on the Tezgoan airfield at Dacca.

The strike formation took-off at 0645hrs. Dadoo and I took-off behind the strike formation. We flew south from Gauhati towards Dacca over the Garo and Khasi hills at about 300ft of the ground to avoid being picked up by enemy radar. We skimmed over the green forested hilltops and very soon entered East Pakistan at the foothills near Cheerapunji and descended down to the plains. We were now flying very low at 900kmph, over green paddy fields, covered with the morning winter mist to avoid enemy radars. I could only hear the hum of my jet engine. My head was moving from left to right, looking out for enemy aircraft that might have been scrambled to intercept our formation, by the air defence control at Dacca.

This was my first mission into enemy territory. I felt nothing. It seemed to me as though I was on a regular training mission, but my senses were alert as never before. No thoughts went through my head but those concerning the immediate mission at hand.

A few kilometres short of the Tezgoan airfield Dadoo and I pulled up to a height of 1000mts and continued to clear the tail of the strike formation. When the Tezgoan airfield was in sight, I heard the strike leader call out to me ‘Buzzy a badmash (code name for enemy aircraft) is taking off.’

At this time the strike aircraft were in a dive to fire their rockets on the targets at the Tezgoan airfield. I saw the enemy aircraft, an F-86 Sabre jet, taking off in a southerly direction on runway 18.

MiG-21 FLs (Type 77s) of No.28 and No.4 Squadrons photographed in the east after the 71 War. Note that all the three aircraft are armed for air defence - with two missile launch rails under the wing and a central drop tank under the fuselage. C 731 and C746 flew with No.28 Squadron, while C 1111 was with No.4 Squadron.

At the time of 1971 war, the Mig-21FL in the air defence role could carry only two Russian K-13 infrared homing missiles, one under each wing, and a fuel drop tank under the main fuselage or a 30mm gun gondola in place of the fuel drop tank. For this mission we had to carry a fuel drop tank as the distance to the target from Gauhati was beyond the reach of the Mig-21FL without it.

When I spotted the Sabre I was flying at over 1000kmph. I immediately started to descend, as the enemy aircraft was lower than I. I did not drop my empty fuel tank to improve the manoeuvrability of the aircraft as I was already at much higher speed than the F-86 Sabre.

At this very moment I heard Dadoo call out that he had another F-86 Sabre in sight and he was jettisoning his fuel drop tank to engage the F-86.

I got behind the first F-86 and when within range I fired my first K-13 missile at him. I saw that the missile, instead of hitting the Sabre, turned left and headed for the sun, which was slightly to the left of the target aircraft. The K-13 being an infrared homing missile will lock onto a heat source which is greater. In this case the heat source happened to be the sun. In winter the sun in the Northern Hemisphere is in the southeast direction in the morning when looking southwards.

After the first miss, I immediately launched the second missile. This one overshot the Sabre and exploded in front of it. The Sabre was safe. After attaining a height of about 200mtrs he started to turn hard right. Although I had no more weapons on my aircraft, I continued to trail the Sabre lest he pursue the strike formation.

As stated by Dadoo, he saw a Sabre behind No.4 strike aircraft and flew in front of him at high speed after jettisoning his drop tank to distract him from his attack on the strike aircraft No.4. He got into slow speed combat with the Sabre and after a few vertical manoeuvres with full afterburner, he disengaged from combat and headed north towards Gauhati as he was running low on fuel. He gave me a call and said that he was heading back to base.

I had turned right through 270 degrees behind the first Sabre when ‘Bhoop,’ the strike leader, called that his formation had finished their attacks on the airfield and was setting course for base. At this stage I left the Sabre and turned left to head northwards to Gauhati. I was heading towards Gauhati at over 1000kmph at a height of about 1000mtrs.

I called to Dadoo ‘What is your position.’ He said he was heading back for base at 100mtrs off the ground. I saw a rail line going east-west. I asked Dadoo to let me know when he crossed the rail line. It is easy to spot an aircraft along a rail line or a river. When I got a call from Dadoo that he was crossing the rail line I looked along it from left to right and spotted Dadoo’s aircraft on my right about 2000mtrs away, low and slightly ahead of me.  I started to descend in order to get level with Dadoo’s aircraft. As I came in level with Dadoo’s aircraft, on his left, at about 1000mtrs, I saw a Sabre aircraft at about 800mtrs behind him. He was coming within firing range. I gave a shout to Dadoo to turn hard left, to get the Sabre off his tail and for me to threaten the Sabre.

When I was coming down to get level with Dadoo’s aircraft, he had reduced power in order to let me catch up to him. When I shouted at him to turn hard left, to throw the Sabre off his tail, he went into full afterburner regime and commenced the hard turn. The aircraft engine takes a few seconds to develop full power. Dadoo’s aircraft started to lose speed rapidly before he could get full power. The Sabre which was trying to shoot him down, could not stay behind Dadoo’s aircraft and thus overshot him on his right.

I called Dadoo to reverse turn to the right and pick up the Sabre, which was at one o’clock to him and only about 400mtrs in front of him. Dadoo sighted the Sabre and got on his tail. He started to try to shoot him down. I had no missiles or any other weapon. I had to leave Dadoo to shoot down the Sabre or defend himself. I was of no further help to him. I left the area of combat and headed north towards base. Dadoo got into slow speed combat with the Sabre and after a few scissors disengaged from combat as he was low on fuel and headed towards Gauhati.

After a few minutes I called Dadoo to let me know how he was.  I did not get a reply to my first few calls. I got worried for his safety. Suddenly Dadoo called and said he was all right. He had left the Sabre and was heading north towards base. I asked him for his height. He said that he was at 100mtrs and that he had only 500lts fuel left. He then climbed to 6000mtrs to save fuel. I asked the strike leader to inform the air traffic control to have the rescue helicopter to be airborne in case Dadoo had to eject due to lack of fuel.

I climbed to 9000mtrs and started to fly for endurance. I came over the Gauhati airfield and started to orbit it. As the leader of the escort mission I did not want to land before my No.2. Dadoo kept flying at 6000mtrs till he saw the runway and then glided to reach it. On the final approach for landing he said that he had only 80lts of fuel left. I watched him land from the top. After landing at the end of the runway, he called that his engine had flamed out. I told him not to stop on the runway as I had to land. He kept rolling and turned off the runway at the end onto a taxi track. On the taxi track there was an aircraft pen to Dadoo’s left. Dadoo turned into the pen and came to stop just outside it. I landed after this and taxied to my allotted pen.

On this mission I had an opportunity to shoot down two F-86 Sabre jets, but alas I could not do so as I had no gun installed on my aircraft.  I wish I had a gun!